Your child is your best source of guidance, insight, and love. But sometimes you have to handle your own business. It’s not always easy being the parent-child relationship manager. There are a lot of things going on that we don’t fully understand or know how to guide us toward a better place.
The best way to navigate this world is to just be yourself — no one’s forcing you or telling you whatnot — but there are a few things you can do instead of worrying about how to talk to your child if they're who you're afraid of:
Talk To Your Child If You're Curious
If you're curious about something, ask. If they have a question, ask. If they don't have an answer, ask anyway. Talking to your child is a great way to get them to open up and talk to you about what they want to do next.
You can also go to their school and ask the students there what they're interested in, and see if they have a freindly kid on the school hallways.
Ask For Help When You Have Questions
If you have a question that isn't answered in the top-down approach you've got access to these two great resources: If you have problems with your child, or your school, or your child's friends, there are lots of ways to get help: You can talk to your child's teacher, the principal, the counselor, or the school resource officer. If you have friends in the school who can offer some help, that's even better!
Be Honest When Talking To Your Child
You've probably heard about kids being afraid of grownups, but don't stress it! Adults can be scary, too, and having a meltdown in your presence can be a real bummer. If you have a problem with your child, or with anyone in your school, or with your community, you need to tell them the truth.
The only way to go about doing this is to be you, and let your child see you as they see you. Be genuine about what you're feeling, and about what your child is experiencing. You don't have to lie, of course, but you can't lie half-assed or you'll sound like a crazy person.
Help Each Other
If you have a problem with a friend in your class, or you think they might be into you, or they might be doing something to get close to you, offer to walk them to the bathroom or the bathroom alone so they can get some oxygen. You can also give them a hug while they're in there.
Hold On To Your Wisdom
You may not think of yourself as an expert on anything, but know this: you are an expert on your child. Your child sees you as an iceberg that's been waiting to be jumped on, and you can feel their desire to get in on the genetic Mudslide.
You can't tell them about the benefits of body painting or about the benefits of yoga, because they don't yet know. But you can reassure them that they don't have to be afraid of anything or anybody if they want to do something about it.
Give a gift for someone you love
You can gift your child a gift each year, just as you would gift yourself. But if you’re going the extra mile and being thoughtful, try to give your child a gift that they will remember you by.
This can be a piece of clothing they are going to love, a gift card to the store, a bookshelf they will always want to pick up, or something really random that you will always look forward to giving your child.
If You’re Going The Extra Mile, Try To Be Sane
If you are dealing with a child who is going through some tough times, or is trying to deal with something big in their life, it can be really helpful to talk to them about what is going on in their life. This can help them see the big picture, and help you understand what is going on in their life and what you can do about it.
Why Not Do Something About It?
If you don’t have something constructive to say to your child and they aren’t going through something tough, or you aren’t sure what to do about it, there is an easy way to go about it: don’t do it. Do nothing. If you are going to say “I don’t know what to do about this”, you will likely be Secretary of State for the next several years.
If You Are Going To Do Something About It, Do It Already
There are a lot of ways to be a parent, but being a parent is one of the most important roles you will ever take on. The only way to handle this world with confidence and grace is to do nothing. Even if you know you must do something, or take an initiative to do something, or have the energy to do something, it doesn’t mean that you have to do it the traditional way.
The best way to navigate this world is to just be yourself — no one's forcing you or telling you whatnot — but there are a few things you can do instead of worrying about how to talk to your child if they're who you're afraid of:
- Talking to your child is a great way to get them to open up and talk to you about what they want to do next. You can also go to their school and ask the students there what they're interested in, and see if they have a freindly kid on the school hallways.
- Invite friends over for dinner if you have them over for dinner. This will allow you to say hello to your friends and introduce your friends to your friends. This will also allow you to say hello to your child. - Take your child to the park if you have them over for dinner. This will allow you to have a little fun with them and let your child know that you love them.
- Take them out for dinner if you have them over for dinner. This will allow you to have a little fun with them and let your child know that you love them.